Bienvenido al mundo, Aeden Kauffman!!
Aeden’s First Day
Well as it turns out Aeden decided to show up 2 weeks early. We were about to go to bed at around 11pm on the 13th and Cassie’s water broke. We weren’t exactly sure what to do as this was our first time having a baby, well I wasn’t sure. My instincts were to run to the hospital right away.
Cassie was a bit more collected and wanted to stay at home as long as possible so she didn’t have to endure the hospital procedures and doctors. After having been through this now I TOTALLY understand that desire. We had some friends come over in the middle of the night to help us assess the situation. Bill Kersch was here in an instant and like me, was ready to go to the hospital. Bill phoned another friend Vivian who works as a doula here in town.
They both trekked thru the forest at night with me to get to the cabin. Vivian checked on Cassie while Bill and I were talking, or actually freaking out a little in the living room. Vivian confirmed what Cassie had told me earlier, that indeed the process was starting but we could wait a while before leaving for the hospital to deliver but that we would most likely see our little guy sometime that day.
Cassie’s contractions started at around 10 minutes apart and by 5ish in the morning were down 5 minutes then down to 3 minutes apart. We decided it was time to go! We walked up and out of the cabin and property, loaded into the Mustang with her pre-packed suitcase and bag of towels, sheets and pillows and headed out as the sun was coming up.
The drive to the hospital was beautiful! Just a picture perfect vibrant tropical morning, well except for the painful contractions Cassie was going through in the cramped seat of the Mustang…. The drive took about 45 minutes and we checked Cassie into the ER at Pediatric San Antonio Hospital in Mayaguez.
Pediatric San Antonio Hospital in Mayaguez
Luckily we had visited the hospital before going so we knew where to go, that helped tremendously in the stress department. Plus as you can see in the photo the hospital doesn’t even look like a traditional hospital so it would have been hectic to find.
As it turns out, Cassie was right and waiting at home for the contractions to get closer was the absolute right thing to do. Waiting in a hospital is the worst part of the whole process and showing up as close to active labor as one can removes those hours of added discomfort and less chance of intrusive medical procedures (like pitocin to speed up the labor!). Our friend Missy helped out with everything and we really appreciated her interaction with the over reactive, standard process trained nurses. Missy has a lot of personal experience to share.
Missy with Cassie Trying to Stay Warm in the Hospital
The nurses at the hospital thought this was going to be one of those 12 hour labors, but we surprised them. We got to the hospital at about 6am and delivered at 9:30am. She was dilated at 3cm so they thought there was “plenty of time”. The doctor wasn’t even on-site and the nurses delivered instead!
That turned out good because we were able to talk the nurses out of unnecessary interventions. We turned down simple things like an IV that would basically tie Cassie to the bed and give the medical system an open port to deliver whatever chemicals and drugs they deem needed. For instance they wanted to hydrate her immediately with an IV, I am sure they were expecting the 12 hour ordeal where she would be forbidden from drinking fluids. Instead it was 3 hours and she wasn’t dehydrated. She didn’t need pain medication. She had a natural birth in a quick manner.
Cassie and Aeden Just After Birth
The hospital here in Puerto Rico is kind of a reflection of society here in general. Lots of rules, some enforced and a lot not. The security at the hospital was completely confused and not coordinated as well as the departments within. Reception doesn’t talk to billing or administration and it makes it hard to navigate, especially for me because my Spanish isn’t great. It was awesome to have our friend Missy here to stay with Cassie while I tried to navigate the maze of admissions.
Our Little Family
I luckily got her checked in and I returned to the delivery room so I was able to be there for the birth and to cut the umbilical cord! We then opted to get a private room so that I (a man) could stay with her and the baby through the night. This is not possible in a shared room, it is also usually not possible to have Missy and I with her during birth and they have a whole set of rules surrounding every aspect of this process but like I mentioned, some are enforced and most aren’t. Finding out which ones are and why is just part of the frustrating process. Sometimes challenging a rule is all that is needed. It was also very strange how you have to bring your own lab work, your own paper work, your own files to the hospital with you along with your bed sheets and towels. You are in charge of everything.
Cassie and Aeden in the Private Room
Recuperating After a Big Event
All in all it went as well as we could have done given the awkward circumstances of why we had to deliver at San Antonio with a doctor we had never met (more details on that later). Cassie was able to deliver on her terms and quickly like she wanted with as little time in the hospital as possible. We spent the mandatory 48 hours and then got out of there!! We are now back at home and figuring out this crying and sleeping routine while Cassie heals from what is one of the craziest parts of life.
Victory!
Next week we begin the process of how to get a Social Security number and Birth Certificate in Puerto Rico. Stay tuned more adventures ahead.
